Posted by: beautifulheritage | March 14, 2008

Baby? What baby?

Last Wednesday, the ladies in my Bible Study threw me a surprise baby shower. How cool is that? Who gets a baby shower for their dozenth child? I am blessed to be surrounded by a group of folks who recognize the beauty of a new life, no matter what designation has been foisted upon it.

As I sat there, opening little gifts of tiny diapers and sleepers, it suddenly hit me:

I’m going to have a baby.

Did you know it is possible to try so hard NOT to think about something that you actually succeed? I’ve been so determined not to focus on the countdown because I knew it would drive me insane and hey, I just don’t have time for that right now, that I really can’t absorb the fact that I’ve got about four weeks to prepare for this familiar little stranger.

I mean, sure I’ve put on a little weight. I might waddle a little bit for some reason. And the gas bubbles? Sheeewt! They are amazingly strong these days.

But…a baby? Yeah, right. Those days are over. I’m honestly too old. And I don’t even like kids! Oh wait…yes I do.

Should I start thinking about it now? Or a week from now? Two weeks? When is it safe to start dreaming a little about what he’s going to look like and be like? How about labor and delivery? Can I pack a bag yet?

Seriously. It’s just all so theoretical to me. It doesn’t help that I usually go late. Like, as much as ten days late. Oof. Hence my reluctance to indulge my little nesting desires. I figure I’ll need something to do in those overdue days (besides cry).

Still, it keeps coming at me in little bits and pieces. Like the Whos calling to Horton from their dustspeck, there is a little message ascending to my brain that says “I am here! I am here!”

Or maybe more like ”MOTHER, PERHAPS YOU SHOULD BE AWARE OF THE FACT THAT YOU WILL NOT, IN ACTUALITY, BE PREGNANT FOREVER? AND I MIGHT NEED A FEW THINGS ONCE I ARRIVE?”

But twenty-seven more days is a pretty long time, after all. An eternity, really. No need to get all panicky and rush about.

Right?

Responses

I was like that with number 6, I remember being stunned at a baby shower to be receiving those little baby things. “Oh, that’s right! I’ll need these!” I remember thinking. So glad to hear I’m not the only one.

She was 12 days late, and those days were perfectly glorious, believe it or not. Every day dawned more beautiful than the one before and we seemed caught in this little perfect bubble where time wasn’t really passing. And I ate ice cream every day - no way was my husband going to not let me have what I wanted.

I always play that game with myself too….putting off thinking about it as long as I could. But I ALWAYS start obsessing about 2 weeks before the due date and wondering EVERY day….”is this the day…ooooh I feel a twinge, is my bag ready?” Drives me crazy!

My first baby was three weeks early, setting me up for false hopes for the others. When I went to my due date with #3, I felt positively ABANDONED BY GOD.

I’m mature that way.

I’m kind of there now only this is #1 - I panicked myself this morning thinking it was going to be today, wore myself out buying stuff for my hospital bag, and now I am back to earth. 3 more weeks.

I was 1-3 weeks late with all but one. I stopped telling people my due date and just gave a month.
Reading yesterday’s happy post reminded me to ask you a question.
The Dutch Babies recipe…does one recipe feed your family for breakfast?

Marni,

About 8 out of my 11 like it, so it works. I don’t have the heartiest eaters.

Jenni

Marni’s comment got me thinking…any more recipes you’d be willing to send out into blogland, I’d be most grateful! Just toss one in with some poetry. :-)

Chris in Canada

We call those Dutch Babies “Yorkshire Pudding” :)

Do you know, we didn’t set up Bronwyn’s bed, or get the infant seat out, or even wash the baby clothes until we were home from the hospital? The only thing I had ready was diapers, and only because the hospital gives us a pack of newborn ones, and my church gave us a “diaper pounding” in lieu of a shower. :D

Oh yeah, you got plenty of time… Ha!

I was a week late with Anja, which I didn’t expect. Both my brother and me arrived early (him by induction, however). But I was determined not to let the midwives decide my due date. If my little baby wanted to wait a month I probably would have let her! Which isn’t always good, I hear…

That is so fun that they threw you a shower. I think it’s odd that the first child gets celebrated so heartily and that the ones after that might get a nod from close relatives but are mostly ignored. They’re important, too! Or at least, that’s what I’m told (I’m a firstborn). :)

Well, it *might* seem like a long time. But then again, yikes! That little one will be here before you know it.

I think you should take your time. If you’re not ready at all, maybe he’ll come before his due date and you won’t have to go over? Kinda like when you are expecting company & you’re not ready for their arrival, so of course they show up early!

Seriously, though, it might be fun to start indulging in some daydreams about your ‘dozenth’ little one. Oh, and be sure to share your whimsical thoughts with us, too!

Kate…LOL! That’s definitely gone through my mind more than once!!

27 days is NOTHING - you are a joy in deed - anyone who gets a shower for the dozenth baby must have the best friends in the world (like draws like ya know) Hope you are getting there mentally - the Lord will bring His newest child here when HE is ready so you might want to get onboard with the plan. What a woman!

Love the thoughts!
I sent my Coach home with instructions on where the clothes were and which ones to wash and bring back to the hospital before we went home - that only happened twice. We survived. And the crib has been out for 12 1/2 years straight.
My kids always really enjoying helping me get everything out and washed. I tell them all of the time - the anticipation is half the fun.
Blessings!

Sorry this is off topic, but where is your Dutch Babies recipe??? I know I saw it here, but just cannot find it and am dying to try it!!!!

Christy,

It’s here: http://beautifulheritage.wordpress.com/2008/03/07/happy-2/

;o)

Wow. I am always the opposite. I realize I am pregnant right away and obsess over the entire pregnancy! I wish I could be more blase about it!

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